Or, maybe there was something you could see: Drab, dingy colors. Everything old and worn. Dusty and musty. Uncared for.
Maybe the people inside seemed a little bit anxious and edgy -- nothing you could really put your finger on, but there was something. You just didn't feel comfortable.
How about the opposite? Have you ever met someone for the first time, and there was something in her eyes, or in her handshake, or in her hug that made you feel so warm and understood and happy. Even though you didn't know the person at all.
This is the power of vibration. Everything and everyone has a vibration.
Last month, I asked women in my Facebook communities to tell me what made them feel beautiful. The answers tended to fall into a few different categories:
- Self-care (like going to the spa, exercising, buying a new pair of shoes . . .)
- Receiving validation (like a hug or a compliment)
- Making a difference (being of help to friends or family, teaching a class or a workshop, using talents)
- Being one with nature (feeling the sunlight, spending time outdoors . . .)
All of these work on enlivening your vibration -- increasing your life energy or prana (as yogis would say).
We play with vibration a lot in all of my coaching programs, and it's surprisingly easy to go from feeling like the equivalent of a dusty, abandoned room to feeling airy, sunlit, and welcoming.
These changes not only make you feel happy in your own skin, but have a profound effect on everyone you meet. You become one of those magnetic women who light up the room just by walking into it.
If you'd like to find out more about how you can start radiating happiness and well-being (even as you continue to recover emotionally from your divorce), you can read a little about my divorce recovery system, and even schedule a free virtual coffee date with me to talk about where you're at and where you'd like to be.
For something you can do between now and when we talk: Begin to notice the various vibrations of the people in your life. Spend more time with the ones who radiate good feelings, and try to reduce the time you spend with ones who drain you. After a few days of this practice, see how much better you feel.