Big thanks to everyone who has contributed responses to our Post-Divorce Holiday Blues-Busting Survey.
I thought you might like to know what women are most interested in when it comes to support over the holiday season.
I really love the way it's turning out -- because, based on your responses, you are very willing to learn to take time out for yourselves and are enthusiastic about using time this season to plan for a happier 2015!
So far, every single respondent to our survey wants:
1) a step-by-step process to help them use the holiday season to come up with a plan to totally transform their 2015. Or, as I like to say, to "turn the blues into a blueprint."
Then, two desires tied for second place:
2) strategies to deal with loneliness during the season and to learn ways to nurture themselves this time of year instead of being overcome by stress and others' expectations.
By the way, if you'd still like to respond, there's time to add your opinions to the mix. Here's the survey, and I'd love to hear from you. I'm personally reading every response.
So, how do you turn the blues into a blueprint, anyway?
The blueprint comes as the last step in our 5 *Very* Surprising Cures for the Post-Divorce Holiday Blues, and here's why. The whole 5-step process takes you through a journey of honoring yourself, and experiencing what it's like to put yourself first so that you can give out of your own abundance and not out of your own exhaustion and sadness.
You might have noticed that giving what you don't have to give never quite works as well as you'd like it to. Well, let's be honest. It never really works at all.
Maybe you've already been living your entire life that way, but now the warning lights are flashing and sirens are going off because -- after having gone through the entire divorce process, and having lost so much of everything that meant most to you -- it feels impossible to keep putting a good face on it, and sacrificing even more heavily than you've done before.
So, the blueprint is the fourth of the five steps in my program. You do it after you've taken specific (and fun) steps to remember who you are (or who you always meant to be), see exactly how you can scale back and remake the holiday season in a way that's fun for you, and even give yourself gifts (don't worry, you get to stay within your budget!).
I want you to have so much fun before you sit down to create your blueprint -- using nothing more than a journal, a pen, and maybe some fun art supplies. The blueprint is fun, not work. It's not about scheduling, outlines, flow charts . . . . In other words, it bears no resemblance to the drudgery you usually do every day.
It's all about dreaming your life, the way you want it to be. Not just where you want to be in your work, family, and financial lives, but how you want to feel every day. Realizing that how you feel is the key to what makes life beautiful. And, it's the key to what will allow your life to change in the ways you want it to.
|Click here for more about how to work all 5 steps.|
I've put together a little gift that outlines the program I used myself last year (and that many of my clients used, too). For some of you, this may be all you need, but we are going to be offering so much more!
You can learn more about The Dynamic Divorcee 30-Day Holiday Blues-Busting Challenge when we open enrollment on Black Friday, Nov. 28.
But, for now, we just want to say that it's a guided program with lots of support that includes a 40-page ebook program guide, five 20-minute audio guided lessons with fun exercises to help you open up to self-nurturing as well as learning to identify and reach out only to those who make you feel good. And you'll learn to minimize the impact of those who don't!
The whole process is kept as simple (deceptively simple) as possible. This is not psychoanalysis. You will not be delving into painful memories. You will not be reliving experiences that you would prefer to forget.
And, we keep adding fun extras to the program. We've already mentioned the private Facebook support group, and I've just created a fun Pinterest board that all Challenge participants will be able to add pins to -- so that we can all share resources, and anything else that's fun, with each other. Since it's a brand new board, there are only eight pins on it now, but I'll be adding to it until we all get there.
In the meantime, please get your 5 Surprising Blues Cures here.
Coming on Wednesday . . .
I'm going to share exactly how I turned the blues into a blueprint myself, and how that worked for me throughout the entire year. Because of my Blueprint, I had the most wonderfully life-changing year ever, and I'm so much more on-track to the life of my dreams than ever before.
But more on that later . . .