|Getting in touch with your roots at Hallowe'en|
It's the perfect time to play a role that can put you in touch with hidden parts of yourself that you'd like to explore.
What part of you did your ex-husband try to bury? What parts of you did he disapprove of? Were there things you always wanted to try that your family of origin forbade?
Try out that fantasy career for an evening. Wonder what it would be like to be a movie star or a princess? Do you have a hero? This Hallowe'en you can walk in her or her shoes.
Take this chance to have fun while doing some serious soul searching through role play. It's not just for kids, you know.
And, it's not just about the costumes.
It's about your ancestors
Hallowe'en, or holy evening, has a long history in Europe, and similar days of ancestor veneration take place in late summer to mid-autumn throughout the world.
Traditionally, this was not only an occasion to pray for the repose of the souls of departed ancestors, but to ask for their help, wisdom, and advice in the daily affairs of the living.
This blog post is the first in a series that will suggest ways to use the key holidays of the fall and winter season in order to build your strength and connection to the best of your roots and life experiences, while planning a brilliant entrance into the new year. So, look for another installment of this series near Thanksgiving Day in the U.S.
Hallowe'en is considered to be the time when the spirits of the dead are closest to Earth, and when our prayers for them can be heard and when we can also ask for their assistance as well.
Even if you don't believe that life, in some form, continues after death, it can strengthen you to remember favorite ancestors, meditate on them, and think how they would advise you when it comes to challenges that you're facing now.
WWGD? (What would Grandma do?)
As you think back about your female ancestors -- your mom, your aunts, your grandmothers, and your great-grandmothers -- what would they advise you today?
What were their victories in life? What were their areas of suffering? What would they like you to do differently so that you can live a happier more fulfilled life than some of them may have had? How would they advise and encourage you based on the wisdom that they accrued in life?
Are there male ancestors whom you revere? What would they advise you about your relationships with men? Would they take your hand and tell you to stop being a pushover? Or, would they suggest that you tone down anger and attitude and try to show more patience and understanding?
Do you have successful, street-smart, savvy ancestors who could give you spot-on career advice? What would they say?
Consider taking a little time to sit quietly on Hallowe'en with a journal in your lap, and meditate on those ancestors who are particularly dear to you. Ask for their guidance, and be ready to write down any insights that come.
And, don't forget to play a little dress up this season -- it may help you to get in touch with some lost parts of yourself that you want back!