Thursday, May 8, 2014
Why your nightmares are your best friend right now
I used to wake up in the middle of a nightmare and go back to sleep to try to make sense of it. Then I'd enter a semi-conscious state with the chills, sure that the content of the nightmare had actually happened, and I would spend several minutes lying there, trying to figure out damage control for whatever I thought had actually occurred. Slowly, I'd fully awaken and realize it had all been a terrible dream.
I became so tired of this happening several nights a week. What were these awful dreams trying to teach me? I couldn't derive anything positive from this pervasive nightmare experience.
Until I figured it out.
I invite you to use your bad dreams as an insight into the main thing (or couple of things) that the wisdom inside you wants you to change in order to be happy.
Your nightmares are guiding you to see, in a dramatic and unmistakable way, exactly what you should focus on -- within the complex tornado of things going on in your life right now. Your dreams are trying to tell you: This is it! Forget the rest of it. Focus on this one thing.
Take a look at the content of your dream. What is it trying to tell you?
In my case, my recurring nightmare revolved around being with the wrong, dead-end man again, slogging through day after day of grayness, and feeling that this was all my life would ever be. Sometimes the dreams were about being controlled, and losing my chance to make something beautiful of my life. About being too old or helpless to change things. Many times, in the dream, I was being attacked and kept trying to scream, but nothing came out of my mouth. Can you see how the themes of powerlessness and unworthiness were center stage in my nightmares?
In your nightmares, you get to see what your inner self sees and fears. Even if, when in a waking state, you feel perfectly capable, or would never admit to yourself that fears and vulnerability are there, in your nightmares, it all comes out.
When you think about what your scary dreams are telling you, and begin to treat them as if they are important self-knowledge, it's easy to make some exciting and healing changes that you might not otherwise have had access to.
In my case, I realized, for the first time, that my nightmares showed me all of the negative feelings that I held about myself -- the very things that held me back from having all of the things that I had desired for a lifetime.
There was no difficult dream interpretation to go through. It was all there. These dreams didn't come from outside me, they came from within.
I began to watch for times when similar themes entered my thought during the day: Feelings of helplessness, unworthiness, being somehow less than other women, all those feelings that the good things in life are for everyone else, but not for me.
Yet, I always knew, throughout my life, that all of these good things definitely were for me. I just didn't know how to get there.
Now, I do. And it's a very simple shift.
The Abraham-Hicks law of attraction material suggests that all you have to do to start this process is to shift your thoughts for 17 seconds from your fears (reinforcing what you don't want) to your vision of what you do want. You don't need to know how you'll get there; you just start telling the story of your life the way you want it to be. When those self-limiting, depressing thoughts return, spend another 17 seconds turning it around. And keep doing it.
You'll find your dreams changing into refreshing, life-giving visions that let you wake up with a smile, and set you up for a beautiful day.
Your nightmares make it very clear to you the story that you are internally telling yourself. And that's great. Now that you know what deep-seated, subconscious beliefs you have, it's that much easier to turn them around.
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